Crush
Since the beginning of the year, I've been nursing a rather inappropriate crush on a chap I come into contact with at work. He looks a bit like Alex Zane, so it's entirely forgiveable. And as well as being cute, he's also rather clever, and knows a lot about music. A combination I find hard to resist.
I've been mercilessly ribbed by my colleagues, and told, on more than one occasion, that the Child Protection Agency would have to be called in.
Really, it was all very harmless. For one, I would never have acted upon it. I am a professional, after all. There was nothing sinister about my intentions. Honest. And for two, it just made my day a little, tiny bit brighter when I knew I was going to see him, which is the point of these things.
I'm sure we've all been there.
Today, I found myself in possession of some forms with my crush's details on them. And, it transpires that he's actually 32. Which is just a smidgen younger than me, and not quite so inappropriate after all.
But now he's gone. I shan't see him again. I do have his email address, but that would seem just a little bit like stalking, so I won't use it, despite receiving a rather lovely note from him today, thanking me for all my help this year.
I'll have to find a new object for my work-based affections when I return from the holidays. We all need something to perk up the 9 - 5, hey?
Crush - Jennifer Paige
Labels: Crushes, Inappropriate behaviour
posted by Cat @ Thursday, June 26, 2008
20 Comments:
Damn what I shame, if only you knew his date of birth before then!
So you are returning after the holidays then? I agree about the crush I have one too. It certainly brightens up my day.
Are you sure you can't use his email address?! Come on, what's the harm?! The very worst that can happen is that he'll say he's not interested in you, but he won't think you're stalking him. He'll be flattered!
Life is too short to abide by these self-imposed and very arbitrary rules of engagement, Cat. Just drop him a line thanking him for his note and ask him if he wants to go for a drink. The worst that can happen is a no or no response at all.
One friendly testing-the-water email does not a stalker make! :)
"Thanks for your note. If you ever feel like a drink, drop me a line".
Casual and non stalking! :)
are you mad woman! of course you must email him, he'll either email back which is fab or not which is no biggy as you won't see him again anyway, either way you're a winner!....she who dares rodney...
GAH! Email him!!! Just follow up the note, and suggest drinks. You've nothing to lose. Do it!
(Apologies for the over-use of the exclamation marks. Just shows how serious the situation is.)
So he's not a student now then? he left you his email address? He looks like Alex Zane?
Sorry to go all American on you, but I think this is what they call "a no-brainer".
I'm with Slutty, Memphis, Leesh, Katy, Hannah and Misssy on this one. Send the email!
Oh, I think it makes for a brighter day (& life) when you have a crush on someone. Especially in the workplace as it can often brighten-up an otherwise dull day!
I think it wouldn't hurt to email him just to acknowledge his note. At least he can then decide what to do from there onwards...
Hope the weekend will be a good one for you ;-)
x
Girls! For one, there is absolutely no evidence that this crush is reciprocated. And two, I happen to know that he has (or had until very recently) a girlfriend! However. I did reply to his email, wishing him well, and ended with "keep in touch" so we'll see.
Sometimes these crushes are best left as crushes, really. He IS cute though!
(And Runnerbean, in an ideal world, I'll find something else during the holidays. In reality, I will probably be going back - but continuing to look.)
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Who cares if there's been no sign of reciprocation! The guy I'm seeing didn't give me the time of day when I used to go into the café where he works. In fact, he was very stand-offish and aloof, but now we're having rampant sex all the time!
And, again, who cares if he has/had a girlfriend? If he still has her, he'll probably not contact you again (unless he's a twat who wants a bit on the side) and if he dumped her recently/got dumped, you can shag him out of his depression!
So every single one of you has checked your morals in at the door huh?
Alison, I'll look into that!
SM, he's not replied to the email, so I'm guessing he still has the girlfriend. I am very glad I kept it vague and did not suggest the drinks!
Anon, I'm not sure there's anything immoral about a woman of 35 having a crush on a man of 33 and not acting on it - the world would be very dull without these little flights of fancy! But thanks for your input.
Weird comment that, anonymous person. I rather take umbrage.
If it's because of the possibility the guy already has a girlfriend, most of the comments (and my own) suggesting Cat made contact with him were before she explained that bit.
So neah.
The age difference is so negligible not to be worth thinking about.
And there's nothing wrong in testing the water to find out if there was mutual interest, that's how relationships start. Duh.
Mephitis, I think it's also possibly because of the student/teacher thing. To clarify that part, all the students I teach are over 18, so definitely legal. I'd placed my guy at mid-twenties.
Regardless of that, I am professional and responsible enough to realise that it would be completely inappropriate. Until he actually left this week, I had only mentioned it to a few close friends, and it was always a crush as opposed to something which I saw as a real possibility.
I don't see what's immoral about it...the guy is 33, which makes him officially an adult. And you don't work with him any more.
It's nice having eye-candy to brighten up your day, even if nothing comes of it, and good on you for being brave enough to have emailed him. I'm sure I wouldn't have. You obviously made an impact on him, anyway :)
I'm ashamed to admit it, but I did sleep with my Intro to Interpersonal Communication professor while I was in college. The embarrassing thing is that I only got as B in the course.
Yeah, I'm totally puzzled about that "immorality" comment, too. Hopefully "Anonymous" won't be popping over to by blog anytime soon, as he'll be apoplectic.
CODY BONES: Surely you should have got an A for the course! I mean, you clearly took Interpersonal Communication to its most logical conclusion with your teacher.
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